You hit "Next", the screen connects, and... silence. We've all been there. The dreaded awkward pause where both people stare at each other, waiting for someone to speak, until one person panics and skips.
The secret to success on ChatDancer isn't being a supermodel or a comedian. It's having a good "opener". A great opening line breaks the tension immediately and gives the other person an easy way to respond. Here are the top 10 conversation starters tested by our community.
The "Pattern Interrupt" (Best for engagement)
Most people expect "Hi, how are you?" or "M or F?". To stand out, you need to break that pattern instantly.
1. The Prop Opener
If you have a pet nearby (or even a houseplant), this is gold. It's disarming, wholesome, and requires zero mental effort for them to answer.
2. The Specific Complement
Look at their background. Commenting on their room shows you are paying attention and not just a bot spamming "hi".
The "Hypotheticals" (Best for keeping it going)
Once you're past the hello, you need fuel. Hypothetical questions are great because there is no right answer, but they reveal a lot about personality.
3. The Zombie Plan
4. The Lottery Ticket
The "Location Guess" (Fun but risky)
Instead of asking "Where are you from?", try making a wrong guess on purpose.
5. The Cold Read
Even if you are wrong (you usually are), they will laugh and correct you. "No way! I'm from Germany!" conversations start naturally from the correction.
What NOT to say
To wrap up, here is what gets you skipped instantly:
- "ASL?" (It's 2026, stop asking this instantly).
- "Show me..." (Don't be that person).
- Dead silence. (Always say something within 2 seconds).
Ready to test these out? Click the button below and try #3 on your next match!